It is 4:40am. I was on a liquid diet yesterday and that included magnesium citrate and dulcolax, so I’m a bit woozy. I don’t have to be up for another two hours, yet, here I am with ideas and stories running through my head.
I just keep thanking my body for sustaining me all of these years. I am grateful. One thought that has been on repeat is about how others will respond once the weight starts coming off. In my support groups, I hear people, women mostly, share how awkward they feel when someone asks them about their weight-loss. Now, we all know that weight and women (some men too) can be a touchy subject. The idea that some people have to justify, defend and lie about their weight-loss goals after surgery is beyond me. People have shared stories of being told they are now too skinny. They feel they have to share skewed numbers when people negatively comment on their progress, or when they ask, “how much weight are you planning to lose?” Don’t do that! In the same way that you don’t want to ask a woman when her baby is due before finding out if she is even pregnant or say to a pregnant woman, “Goodness, you’re huge! When are you due?!
People, let’s be sensitive here! If you would not want to discuss your weight loss, gain, goals, failures and such with another person, don’t dive into their business out of your own curiosity. If you know the person well enough, then you will have some ideas about their journey and their goals. If you don’t know, then wait for them to share with you. Here are my boundaries. If you did not mention my weight when I was close to 350 pounds, then don’t dare say anything when I approach 150 (which, for the record, is still considered obese for me by the BMI chart - eff that!). Just don’t . You may encourage me, pray for me, or even ask how things are going. But you may not speak negatively, make jokes about or inspire shame about my body. Just a little food for thought, or liquid protein for thought.
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