The "F" Word

 

I keep finding myself repeating this phrase to myself and to others: “What if there is no such thing as failure?” What if it was all as it was meant to be and just because something did not go according to plan does not mean one failed.  We use this idea of failure for everything from education to relationships. I’m not suggesting that we revamp the whole education system (although…) but I am asking that you take a look at what it means to fail. Some say that failure only comes in not trying. Others say that failure is when you do  not get the outcome you hoped for. I think that, as long as something is gained, there is no failure. 

I have been holding steady at 170 pounds for about a year now. Sometimes I think I should still 

be losing. Does that mean I have failed in my weight loss goals? Other times I think I’ve lost too much. Have I failed? Then other times, I feel some kind of way because I didn’t start lifting weights and working out earlier on this journey in order to prevent or lessen sagging skin or weakened muscles. Did I fail?  Absolutely not. I learned from each of these things. The biggest lesson is this: Be who and where I am. Embrace me, love me, celebrate me and keep reaching for the feelings I want to experience in life.

Failure is another “F” word, in my book. Right up there with the “C” word - Can’t. Let’s remove the shame and guilt from life and trust that where you are is where you are meant to be. Now, we all have choices along the way and each choice brings with it a consequence or reaction. I only encourage us to reduce fear of failure that keeps us from moving forward and enjoying life by knowing that you are living and learning and growing every step and every decision along the way. 

What if you cannot fail?  Because, You can’t (ok, that’s the only time I’ll approve the “C” word!)